by Lion's Mane » Mon Jan 27, 2003 7:47 pm
As I'm a part of a successful internet relationship that has been four years in the making, I have to offer this advice.
Stay away from them like the plague, unless you're willing to dedicate yourself long hours of sitting in front of the computer (something Wild-Eyes and I are finally getting past), and expensive phone bills, and the general distrust that comes from being online.
If you two are in the same area, I'd say forget the pictures, and get to know each other. Be friends, first and foremost. If you jump into the relationship before even being close, GOOD friends, then the relationship is going to be shaky at best. That's the most important part. The relationship can't be about romance or sexuality alone, nor can it be the foundation of a relationship. If you two can't laugh about each other, and laugh about yourselves, there will be problems, believe me.
I lost the friendship aspect with Wild-Eyes a while back, and now that we're mending it, I'm damned sorry I let myself see her as just my lover, or just my wife, etc. She's my best damn friend in the whole world.
Remember, children, "No two people are not on fire."