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Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Sat Apr 01, 2017 2:38 am
by Zyzyfer
bristlr? That's an awesome concept!

Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Sat Apr 01, 2017 9:03 pm
by SunXia
Ranbir wrote:That's a big step, considering, so good on you for making it.

And oh yeah, ladies have a shit load of messages to get through. I gotta stand out but not put so much effort that it feels wasteful. I've resorted to bizarre poetry now and then.


It is a big step, I have a history of very clingy people to the point of suffocation and sadly, while I don't want to judge people on their mental state, I have to watch out for the red flags on the matter. I can't have negative nancies. I just can't. We would never be compatible in a romantic setting.

Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Sun Apr 02, 2017 10:04 pm
by Ranbir
I've also tried bumble, where the lady has to message first.

The least active app.

Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Tue Apr 04, 2017 2:19 am
by SunXia
Oh my, I accidentally messaged a guy first recently on PoF, never hit the flirt button before, thought it would give me a small window to confirm but still messaging him ha!

I personally hate gender roles and yet it is one social stigma I can't bring myself to work around unless I'm wasted and the last time I pulled wasted I was 21!

It's been so drilled into us from we are kids that the guy is the active one that even me, who often flouts social norms, and have arguments with my brothers and father when I buy partners a drink, I still can't get over that hump of approaching a guy first.

I am determined that the generation of kids around me have access to diverse situations and scenarios.

Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Tue Apr 04, 2017 2:41 am
by Zyzyfer
SunXia wrote:It's been so drilled into us from we are kids that the guy is the active one that even me, who often flouts social norms, and have arguments with my brothers and father when I buy partners a drink, I still can't get over that hump of approaching a guy first.


It's interesting how that is a thing. I am very fortunate because both of my long-term relationships got started from the woman approaching me. I don't have any problems conversing with women but am terrible at "pulling", so it saved my butt.

Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Tue Apr 04, 2017 7:02 am
by Sun Fin
Zyzyfer wrote:
It's interesting how that is a thing. I am very fortunate because both of my long-term relationships got started from the woman approaching me. I don't have any problems conversing with women but am terrible at "pulling", so it saved my butt.


I am also lucky that my now wife asked me where we were going after we had been texting a few months otherwise we would probably still be texting... :lol:

Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Sat Apr 22, 2017 12:59 pm
by dymlos timbre
My online dating experience is a bit of a mixed bag but one constant theme is that it always ended in failure. I have had some terrible times with people and some were just flat out crazy but 4 years ago i met one woman who was incredible. Unfortunately a past relationship left her with some personal issues, and we could never advance in our relationship, Good girl and i hope she is doing well now.

But other than that one example most dates got a little heated quickly, now I'm just like any other guy and i do like messing around, however not on the first date and especially not a first date with someone i met online, but a lot of my dates seemed like it was an attempt at a quick release while i was going to try and actually get to know someone.

I guess you can say i'm a little grateful for it though since now i know i'm ok with just being me until the girl of my dreams comes and completely catches me off guard.

Re: Online Dating - Anyone tried it?

Unread postPosted: Sun Apr 23, 2017 7:01 pm
by Jebusrocks
Recently just started using Okcupid and honestly its been working pretty great for me! I recently moved to a new city (Vancouver) so its a pretty good way of meeting people, even if it doesn't work out imo