Now hold on, not every girl likes to explode and annoy people about the past!! In fact, in my experiences, my men were the ones that concentrated on the past, like, for example, people I dated when I was 15, ten years ago!! There's always this taboo thingy that women never forget things and while, yes I have a good memory, I don't bloody well throw the past in somebody's face and get it done to me!! That thing works both ways!!TMBJ wrote: But if you haven't forgotten the past, they definitely haven't. I mean, you can try to put the past behind you, but she's going to be a time bomb with a uterus, believe me.
But yeah back to stuff, Mikachu, you know how I feel regarding this, you need to cut her out of your life completely, there's only so many times you can try and only so much time you can wait!! While yes, you have feelings for this girl, or did, you need to move on and accept you weren't meant to be!! While before, you wanted to be there for her and stuff, you have to remember you had strong feelings and those influenced your actions, whether you're ready to admit that or not!! When you take those feelings out of the picture, there is going to be a large vacuum of awkwardness because, you don't feel like you used to do around her, she doesn't make you as bubbly inside and yeah, you will remember the fresh wound at this stage!! There may be a time when you can be on good terms with this girl, and that would take a long while, but I don't think you will ever be close!!
Some people I talk to do the whole, "Oh I'm good friends with my ex" thing and while yes, I feel you can be on good terms with an ex, I don't think you can be good friends with them otherwise there weren't any real, gripping feelings there in the first place!!
Actually had this discussion with a friend last night, he thinks it's weird that I've never fallen for a friend but I guess it's because when I meet someone that I like, I won't allow myself to become "just friends" with the person!! The people I keep close to me I want to be sure that they are my friends and nothing else, I prefer honesty and if I'm attracted to somebody, I'm not going to sit there and pretend they can be friends with me when my feelings are anything but platonic, I have enough complications in my life to engage in that sort of boy/girl hoohah!! I've also never been one to "develop" feelings for a person, for me they're either there or they're not!! I never enjoy those dates people pressure you into going on on the off-chance you may hit it off - if we haven't yet, I doubt we will!! Maybe I'm just weird but I would rather lose a boyfriend who wasn't a friend previously that lose a friend because I'd risked dating him ad not have him there to comfort me when it ended!!