Before I start, let me say I'm not bashing your opinion, I respect your opinion but I just love to argue.

Without further ado, please allow me to retort...
Rowde wrote:First of all, I don't believe in a marriage. If I'm going to spend the rest of my life with somebody, then that means I have to really trust them completely. Marriage is a contract, a binding of individuals. You make people sign contracts so that they can't back out of their obligations. Despite the fact that of whether you think they're a good person or not, you feel you can't trust them completely, so you get their word in writing. Well then making someone sign a marriage contract completely negates what marriage is supposed to be about, right? Because if you're making them sign a contract, that means you don't trust them completely.
Well, you can look at it that way,
or you can look at marriage as a
reinforcement of the commitment to live for one another. That's the way I choose to look at it...
Rowde wrote:Second of all, I think the importance of sex is blown way out of proportion in our current society. I've been celibate for over three years now, and I think that I presently have far more meaningful relationships now than I ever did back in the day. I have had sex before, but I don't really miss it though.
I also think the importance of sex is blown out of proportion, but I'll tell you this: up until a couple of days ago, I had been celibate for a while also (though not nearly as long), and I'll tell you I definitely missed it. You just can't base a whole relationship on sex, or it will quickly become stale.
Rowde wrote:If I look at it rationally, what is the purpose of having sex? Procreation, right? To spread my seed, to continue my blood line, and ensure the survival of my species. Only there are already six billion people on this planet. I don't think we're going anywhere for awhile. Our time would be better spent on trying to figure out a way to move civilization forward, instead of pondering where we will insert our wahoos, or, in contrast, which wahoos we will let in us.
I also agree that the planet is overpopulated with humans, but in all reality, in this day and age (if not always) there are other reasons people have sex...and I'd be willing to wager quite a bit of money that the reason most people have sex
isn't to procreate...
Rowde wrote:Where does this idea that our bodies are so extremely sacred come from? We are not all individual and unique snowflakes. There are two basic models to the human anatomy. Males and Females. One has a penis, the other has a vagina. Breasts are glands covered in a layer of fat meant for feeding babies. The only thing that makes any of it "special" is the ideas in your very own head. Where did we get such notions. Gee, I wonder, it's only society that's been ramming the thought up my freaking nose since I was old enough to read.
I also agree to this point...I don't know why it's such a big deal and a taboo subject. I hypothesize that it's because you derive pleasure from sex, and according to the bible that's original sin, no?
Rowde wrote:So no, I don't think it's wrong to have sex outside of marriage or within any frame of time within a relationship because I don't think sex is important. However, I'm not saying that we are all emotionless zombies, or that we should be. I do have a contrasting theory.
Once again, I think it comes down to the 'commitment' between two people. Being monagamous (sp?) is like a humongous show of faith to your partner; it shows them that you think they're special and not just a piece of meat to them.
Rowde wrote:Consider this for a moment:
You are going to die.
This is a true statement. We are all going to die someday. We were dying since the day we were born. Call me pessimistic if you want, but this really is only a realistic view of the situation.
How true

, yet how depressing...
Rowde wrote:My time spent with people is precious. I could die tomorrow and all you'd be left with is the time I spent with you on this boards. It is the only gift I really have to give. So, I don't think that it's just sex that can be taken for granted. You could take the time spent playing videogames with someone for granted as well, for example. Or time talking in a coffee shop, time doing the laundry together, etc. All of this is just as important.
Sex is just something you do in the end. It would be just as damaging doing anything else with someone you didn't really want to spend time with.
You are correct, but when
I am with someone that I truly care deeply for, I get this feeling in the pit of my stomach...(don't laugh, I'm a deep down romantic) and I miss the feeling when it's not there. I don't get that feeling, or anything close to it except from love; not video games, or message boards, or any of that. Not just sex, either...I'm talking about true love. That's why I think it's wrong to have sex outside of a deep relationship. It's something I've done in the past (to my everlasting shame

), and it cost me my first true love...
