Dong Zhou wrote:Regards romance, it isn't dead. I mean it may get abused into overly expensive things including weddings which may cost more then a house deposit, but it is there, people still long for it. Sex may have become more casual, we may not have formal dances anymore but a girl (or a man) still likes to be wooed, to be courted and made to feel special. Disney still does true love and that sells, the young adult films still play hugely into romance as much as action.
Romance is definitely still alive and well. I need only look to my own relationship for proof of that. We still have some formal dances for students here in the US (prom, homecoming, and the senior dance are big ones at my high school, as well as Sadie Hawkins - where the girls ask the guys out), and I think in general people like the "game" of romance. I personally would have to have strong feelings with someone before I'll lay down with them. Or sit, whatever.
I really don't know too many details about how sexual people were back in the 50's or so. Publically it was quite restrained, but I don't know about in private. I suspect sex among people is more casual, but I'm not really sure. I do think that the number of people that betray monogamous relationships is really, really high, or at least what I would consider high.
I remember reading a report from the UK a while back. A bunch of mothers were polled, and asked if their children were born of their husband's genes or someone else's. Something like 20% of women said that their children were not their husband's child, and that they didn't know. That's only kids born of an affair! I have to imagine the number of just plain affairs is higher. On the other hand, the UK is a bit weird. Oh, Dong, don't read that last sentence.
I don't have the credentials to see if this is different from numbers from the last century or earlier than that. But it is something that makes me think that things might be a bit too "casual", at least for my taste. I have no issue with single people or people who are in "open" relationships doing whatever they like. I do think it's morally wrong to have sex outside of a monogamous relationship.
...That was a bit of a ramble. Sorry, I lost track a bit there. But that's all I can think to say.