First of all, if I were born in that period I hope I weren't born as a woman! Low-class women had relatively more freedom but had to endure poverty, hard labor and non-stop pregnancies (not to mention all the horrors of the civil war). Being a wife or a concubine of a wealthy man may seem like a better deal (safer, at least), but psychologically it could have been even worse - being stuck in a cage for life. "Dream of the Red Chamber" (one of my most favourite books), "Jin Ping Mei", Zhang Imou's movie "Raise the red lantern" paint quite a depressing picture. Freedom has always been very important for me, so I'd probably rebel against the norms of the Confucian society - and, as a natural result, would have been crushed by it.
I've always enjoyed reading about court power struggles, intrigues and elaborate plots, so, given an opportunity, it would have been interesting to take part in them myself! But in the end I'd probably loose everything including my own head because of my own carelessness - at least in chess I usually lose because I'm too concentrated on attacking and don't pay enough attention to the danger to my own pieces.
If I had lived in a relatively peaceful area, I would travel across the country, learn from various wise people and then live in a hut somewhere in the mountains (far from the war), playing my xiao flute, practicing calligraphy and composing poetry.
Otherwise I'd join the most sane (that's important!
) and powerful lord out there - and simply try to survive.