weiyan405 wrote:well shikan's definately female lol. too defensive not to be.
men and women are very different in some ways, as we all well know. yes sunxia (i'm not sexist btw, i promise :p) it is a sad fact that most guys tend to care a lot more about sex and status with their buddies than a girl's feelings, and when a girl is with a dude like that every other guy around him can see right through his game and wonder why she can't.
and you wanna know how to tell if it's a crummy relationship? do your homework BEFORE it becomes a relationship.
make 'em wait before you give them your dignity (sex for acceptance, even on a primal subconscious level, equals lack of dignity and self respect) and let time pass (God forbid even a couple of years) and see what behavior is consistent over time and what's erratic and/or impulsive behavior, and develop your relationship. remember you gotta be best friends first and foremost and that takes time to develop. plus if he's just trying to get you to sleep with him he isn't gonna wait for it that long and he'll leave, saving you the hardship of wasting your life with him. there is no fool-proof way to completely eliminate the threat of a bad relationship but prevention is the best defense for anything
. you all got gramma's and pappa's right? I bet at least 75% are still together if not seperated by death. what did they know that people these days don't? so instead of getting defensive about my point of view (this doesnt apply to everyone, of course) maybe you should consider the merit in it.if you don't believe me just ask your grandma or grandpa why they stayed together so long? they didnt jump to conclusions or live off impulses. they did it the right way.
sex is too available these days so what's gonna make the "dogs" out there change? they know they can get it easily if they just bs you long enough for you to drop your initial defenses and they know they dont have to care about the girl in order to achieve their goals. and i've seen a lot of good guys get the short end of the stick (that's the nice way to put it) and other guys see that so if both sexes, at least as a majority, see kindness as a form of useless weakness, then what motivation is there in human interactions to pursue or embody it in any way? not saying people dont even pretend to be nice but i shouldnt have to spell that out either. to that end it will be minimized to bare necessity, thus you have the guy who really dont care how your day went or how things make you feel but will act like it when the relationship is fresh or he wants something.
and btw shikan i was a missle ballistics tech during my stint in the army, and i am just a year away from recieving my teacher's certification in world history, health and wellness and anatomy, plus i will achieve a coaching certification in 3 semesters and have a 159 iq, even tho i dont give that too much accord as it is relevant only to pattern recognition, but i dont think that makes me dumb
and i can come back with more than just impulsive ranting, which on some planets is recognized as intellect.
i'm at least a couple steps above the amoeba i'm sureand i have female friends who are a lot smarter than me, but they still fall for the worst guys and it just stupifies me.
and forgive me lady moderator but I dont see why you cant be happy with the one person who's gonna look you in the eyes when you're old and grey and tell you he doesnt regret a second of his life with you.
anyone in pursuit of anything else is polluted by modern humanity, which is barely humanity at all, but i'm sure that will be contested as well
weiyan405 wrote:you think trying to define me in a little bubble that your pathetic brain can comprehend and criticize affects me or means anything at all?
I read your txts and i cant tell if your just a desparate loser who likes to use big words and belittle others to make yourself feel better or you think this is getting you brownie points somewhere.
if you expended half the energy you just wasted on trying to dog me out on anything else you'd be an expert too.
this is a forum for sharing ideas and opinions,
not spamming to call someone else a spammer.
too simplistic?? sounds like someone who outhinks himself,
and your over defensiveness leads me to surmise that you have poor impulse control
and a few insecurities that you can't remedy,
so use big words cuz that's what the grown-ups do and criticize the first person who dont share your view on something.
yea, i'm sorry i didnt realize sooner that you totally rock (bows in respect).
weiyan405 wrote:and as for that last part of your text, look up behavioral psychology in the dictionary or get a book on it or something. all things exist by the rule of cause and effect. everything you do is an outward expression caused by something within, whether it be cognitive or from deep within the subconscious. that's how i know you're impulsive and insecure but you werent that hard to diagnose. just know that everything you do and say and wear and HOW you do and say things are a map of who you are and anyone who has studied this or has a little common sense can use this and read the "map" and , in effect, they can read you. How you think people make psychological profiles for FBI, CIA, police, or military? you think they guess? what you do is a reflection of you and what you have been up to the exact moment in time known as the present is what you are.
weiyan405 wrote:ahh the old "i know you are but what am i" approach. how touching.
and when you quoted me stating i had female friends who's intellect rivalled my own your answer wasn't sarcastic and slanderous? "rrright" that's what made this a bit sour. i know you're a vet on these forums but you were out of line for that
, and i will always defend myself,
and since i saw nothing but political blabbering in your latest response i, too, will leave this alone.
i was just sharing my opinion with everyone. such is the purpose of all forums. everone can read and see who threw the first punch tho
weiyan405 wrote:i'm sorry for the triple txt everybody. just forgot to explain "rock" means "you rule" "you're cool". get it? it was sarcasm, indeed, but i felt you insulted me with your sarcasm earlier. i'm not blatantly insulting you, i'm just sayin get off my back so hard about my opinion pl0x.
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