First off, I agree completely with everything you said, just want to add a few extra points. Also, I'm not familiar with Leelah Alcorn, I'll go with what you said in your post.
I agree with Shika as what works for one person does not work for another. Religion and Faith is great for a lot of people who find strength and purpose in their faith but it isn't good for those who are persecuted and forced to feel shame from a faith they have been raised under. One case would be Leelah Alcorn, look at how her family's refusal to accept her chosen identity and desires affected her. Look at what is a likely result when your family and those in your church continue to browbeat you with the idea that their God doesn't make mistakes, that you are a freak of nature and that you should just turn to their God. Being isolated from the outside world with nobody to talk to but your religious family and church "healers" contributed to making a very confused persons life seemingly unbearable. Even now, knowing how much their treatment caused Leelah to hate herself, her parents still spout religion when it was damaging to her.
There is nothing more despicable for a so called "Christian" than for them to do something like this. Nothing makes me more furious than this.
No, God never make mistakes, and He sure as hell didn't make a mistake when He made Leelah. The only mistake He might have made was having her born to such idiotic and wicked parents. No parent should ever reject their child for being transgender. NEVER. A child is a gift and privilege from God, to be cherished and cared for. If one of my future children was transgender, I would work to understand them, console them, and respect whatever choice they made.
Was she at fault? Well is anyone who is psychologically affected by abuse at fault for it affecting their judgement and happiness? Faith can hardly be a pillar of strength for someone who faith is being used as an excuse to try and "fix" them. She hated the life her parents were forcing her to lead, a life away from her peers, a life being forced to listen from "healers" about how wrong she was and how she should just turn to their God. She hated having arguments with her mother and family since she was 14 and she hated being isolated. Most of all, knowing she was transgender and being made to feel more like a freak by parents who loved her but didn't act lovingly towards her, she hated herself.
Yes, she was at fault. But you cannot hold it against her, given everything that happened to her.
This is exactly why I say Faith cannot, and absolutely should not be forced. It is always voluntary.
Leelah's thoughts were not rational but neither was the "treatment" she was undergoing. Telling someone to just trust God does not help if those who follow God refuse to accept her. She could have had faith but that type of thing can be tarnish when people around you are insisting that the God you believe in won't accept you, that he doesn't make mistakes that he doesn't make freaks etc etc.
In that situation I would highly recommend her to find real Christians, if not that, at least people who will make an attempt to help her. Clearly, the people she was surrounded by were useless.
Sure, many can find strength in God and in their faith in God, but many need to find that strength elsewhere in friends and other things. When that is denied to you then its very difficult to see that strength or to feel that strength when your self-worth is weak, when your grip on rational thought is weak from depression. Sure she would not have lived in her parents home all her life but its very difficult to see that when you are in that environment, when the pressure of self-hate and depression is building around her.
I'm glad lots of people have been able to turn to God in grief and do good things for others and such. But I don't think it should be forced on everyone as a healing measure as everyone is different and not everyone finds strength in faith, and many find hatred from those of faith so its understandable.
In my experience, it is better to trust in God rather than man. I've met people who've had longtime friends betray them. But still, for Leelah's case it would have been the best course for her. I am reluctant to say this, but it is sometimes better to avoid religion.
There seem to be many strings to this power.
There's only that one string, just gotta realize you CAN.
Do all of them really? There are alot of hard obstacles out there. Many humans, regardless of their inner fortitude, are not in their control. They may not be able to control them mentally or they may not be able to control them physically (or biologically). I still think its a foolhardy position to take that we can truly handle everything thrown at us (us metaphorically
Then how else would we survive? We must have the strength, otherwise we're screwed. Unless the thing that's thrown at us can be avoided.
I think your latter statement sums up my reply. In my post I explicitly stated faith, like any idea or concept, can be a useful motivator or sustainer. So I obvious agree it can help. But the statement 'god never gives us anything we can't handle' isn't a statement which says 'faith can help'. Its a absolute statement that with faith anything can be overcome, i.e. faith is a cure-all.
If anything, it sustains the spirit until a solution to the problem is found.